We think of Love as a mysterious feeling, one that comes and goes without reason. But we're now learning that it makes more sense then we previously thought. There ARE ways to build, strengthen and maintain the bonds of love.
How often do you fight with your partner over something "silly?" She leaves her dirty coffee cup on the table, he forgets to pick up your almond milk at the grocery store, she doesn't text you back for two hours. While part of your brain can see each of these moments as small blips in the larger story of your relationship, a more primal part of you feels furious, hurt, insecure.
As we gather more information about our loved one, our understanding of them becomes more nuanced and rich, and we devote more space to them in our mind and heart. Without a richly drawn map, we cannot know our partner. And without fully knowing them, we cannot love them deeply.